You know how sometimes you can read something and feel so so inspired or it makes you feel better about yourself or it makes you feel validated in some kind of way? Aren’t those posts just amazing and so encouraging!? Then there are some posts that, for whatever reason, make you feel like crud…
You know the ones. The post might not have anything negative about it and it’s not even associated with you whatsoever, but it makes you feel worse about yourself or your life through comparison. A lot of the time those posts are gorgeous photos accompanied by great captions that are engaging and positive, yet they still make me feel … less than.
While social media can be such a great tool for connecting and bringing people together or keeping up with family far away, among other things, it can be a huge downer, too. I have experienced this myself more so recently than in the past. Social media used to just be for fun but it seems like ever since I have made blogging and mainly Instagram my career it’s definitely not fun. I know I know… like why am I complaining? I get to take photos, write captions, work with cool brands and get paid for it? I mean, on the surface that sounds amazing and I was all for it as my social media career started to grow. That really is something I truly love about the blogging and social media influencer game… you don’t have to have some crazy huge 400K follower audience to make a living being an influencer. It used to be all about the follower count but now it’s about engagement and it’s proven that the micro-influencers (under 5K or so) have a way higher engagement rate than accounts with hundreds of thousands of followers. Instagram has changed the algorithm so many times that I don’t even know where we are. At the same time, though, I don’t care to know what’s going on with the way Instagram works. I just enjoy having an outlet to keep memories stored and allow me to get some creativity out.
Becoming a social media influencer has grown so much that it seems like everyone is trying to become one and the market is completely saturated. I love that there has been this shift offering so many people a way to work from home and make a living, but at the same time, I’m over it. For me and my mental health and well being, I need to take a step back and step down from this career.
Some accounts that I used to follow were gorgeous, they had the cutest kids, the perfect homes, awesome photography and editing styles, and lots of awesome engagement on their account! Recently, though, I have been craving something more. I want realness and authenticity, not curation and staged photos. I mean, yes, some photos are going to be “staged” as in people standing in a certain spot for a photo, but decorating an entire room, dressing your kids in stuff they’d never wear, or even traveling hours for one photo just because it’s the perfect location or set up…that just isn’t what is filling me up right now when I see it on a screen.
I am all for beautiful photos. Don’t get me wrong there. With those pretty photos I am craving some messy captions, though. I want to be able to feel like I am less alone and right now, and to be honest, my life is pretty messy.
I have slowly been unfollowing people that make me feel less than and I encourage you to do the same. It has nothing to do with them, but me. Even though I love their feeds I need more than just pretty photos. I have also been on the hunt for some accounts that fill me up and share their real life messiness… that’s where I get the motivation to keep posting on my own feed and blog. I want the real stuff.